Since today is 4th of July, and in America it is Independence Day, I am going to be off celebrating with a couple of friends and therefore don’t have time to really write (I’ll probably write a meaningful post tomorrow!) but it was convenient timing because I found this brilliant post on Tumblr, by one of my favorite blogs, Leeyounger that not only do I 100% agree with but thought it was super wise and completely amazing!
Please Don’t Settle for a Sucky Marriage by LeeYounger on Tumblr:
You want to be married. I get it. Trust me, I get it. I wanted to be married my whole life. I was thinking seriously about marriage when I was 9 years old, no kidding. I know you want to be hitched more than you want just about anything else, but please, please, please don’t settle for anything less than a marriage that will rock your face off for decades to come and beyond.
Here’s what I mean by that:
Don’t mess around with people who don’t love Jesus. Just don’t. I mean, look – there is the very slightest chance in hell that you might lead this person to the Lord and then overnight they will become the strong, passionate and dedicated kind of believer that really pushes you to grow more in the Lord; but good heavens, that’s only the slightest chance and let’s face it – that never happens, ever. The truth is, a marriage without Jesus in it is doomed from the start. It takes an almost impossible amount of humility and cooperation to be married, happy and in love for decades. Only Jesus can empower that kind of self-sacrifice, patience and servant-hearted love. If you don’t have that, you don’t have anything that will last very many storms. (And you will have storms)
Marry someone who freaking LOVES Jesus. I mean, you don’t have to tell them to love Jesus, they just love Him all by themselves. Their love for Him encourages you to seek the Lord more.
Marry someone who blows you away. If all this person has is good looks, move on – and do it today. You want someone who makes you laugh. You want someone who impresses you. You want someone who makes you get on your face and worship Jesus for His creative genius!
Marry someone who cherishes you. You want someone who makes you feel like a rock star, a superhero and the world’s best-kept-secret all rolled into one.
Marry someone who wants to serve the Lord. There is no better way to grow in love than loving others in ministry. And, there’s nothing more exciting and fulfilling than serving the Lord together as a team with your mate!
Marry your best friend. I cannot stress this enough. When something terrible happens, who do you want to call? When something amazing happens, who do you text first? When you’re dog-tired and you just want to crash and you don’t want to see the face of any other human beings in the whole world, who is the only living soul that you want to be with in that moment?
Don’t settle for less. When you marry, you’re stuck. You’re captured. The question is, will you be glad that you’re captured? Will you be captivated and committed? Tell God what you want and trust Him to work it out beautifully in His time.
Instead of my normal Friday “To My Future Husband” post, today, as it is Good Friday, I will instead be writing about that.
I know, I know, it’s a cliché topic to write about on Good Friday but that’s just it, it shouldn’t be. Yes, year after year Good Friday comes and goes and honestly most people don’t pay that much attention, it’s a story most of us have heard forever. Literally, it’s a story I’ve heard since I was born and don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a bad thing, it’s the most important story ever told but due to the amount of times we’ve all heard it, I think it’s losing it’s meaning to most people. How often do we stop to think about what it truly means? At least for me, not that often. This Holy Week however, I’ve been trying to view it differently, to really reflect on what this day means.
Good Friday of course is the remembrance of the day Jesus was hung on a cross and brutally murdered. He did this for us, He didn’t have to but because of His love for every single one of us, and His wish that none would die and be sent to eternal life in Hell. Why don’t we think about this more often? I mean, this is ridiculously awesome and the most loving act that has ever occurred in the history of the world! He died for us, He was tortured for us, just to save us for sin, which we don’t deserve at all. That kind of love is outstanding and what I strive to live for in life, I want to live my life with that kind of love for people. Obviously I’m not nearly that loving because I’m not perfect and I’m only human but this is what I strive for. To love people enough to lay down my life for them.
This sounds like a sad story of course, and it is, it is the saddest story ever, that my Savior, my Jesus, my everything was killed and tortured for me, but that’s not the end, because 3 days later, He was raised from the dead. But more on that later. For now, think about how awesome this love is and truly reflect on what this means for us.
John 15:13 ~ No one shows greater love than when he lays down his life for his friends.
Mark 15 ~
The Crucifixion of Jesus
A certain man from Cyrene, Simon, the father of Alexander and Rufus, was passing by on his way in from the country, and they forced him to carry the cross. They brought Jesus to the place called Golgotha (which means “the place of the skull”). Then they offered him wine mixed with myrrh, but he did not take it. And they crucified him. Dividing up his clothes, they cast lots to see what each would get.
It was nine in the morning when they crucified him. The written notice of the charge against him read: the king of the Jews.
They crucified two rebels with him, one on his right and one on his left.Those who passed by hurled insults at him, shaking their heads and saying, “So! You who are going to destroy the temple and build it in three days, come down from the cross and save yourself!” In the same way the chief priests and the teachers of the law mocked him among themselves. “He saved others,” they said, “but he can’t save himself! Let this Messiah, this king of Israel, come down now from the cross, that we may see and believe.” Those crucified with him also heaped insults on him.
The Death of Jesus
At noon, darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon. And at three in the afternoon Jesus cried out in a loud voice, “Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani?” (which means “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”).
When some of those standing near heard this, they said, “Listen, he’s calling Elijah.”
Someone ran, filled a sponge with wine vinegar, put it on a staff, and offered it to Jesus to drink. “Now leave him alone. Let’s see if Elijah comes to take him down,” he said.
With a loud cry, Jesus breathed his last.
The curtain of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom. And when the centurion, who stood there in front of Jesus, saw how he died,t he said, “Surely this man was the Son of God!” Some women were watching from a distance. Among them were Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James the younger and of Joseph, and Salome. In Galilee these women had followed him and cared for his needs. Many other women who had come up with him to Jerusalem were also there.
The Burial of Jesus
It was Preparation Day (that is, the day before the Sabbath). So as evening approached, Joseph of Arimathea, a prominent member of the Council, who was himself waiting for the kingdom of God, went boldly to Pilate and asked for Jesus’ body. Pilate was surprised to hear that he was already dead. Summoning the centurion, he asked him if Jesus had already died. When he learned from the centurion that it was so, he gave the body to Joseph. So Joseph bought some linen cloth, took down the body, wrapped it in the linen, and placed it in a tomb cut out of rock. Then he rolled a stone against the entrance of the tomb. Mary Magdalene and Mary the mother of Joseph saw where he was laid.
Sometimes I sit here reading fan fiction, or watching a chick flick (When I’m forced into it) and see people who are madly, passionately in love (Yeah I know it’s fiction but love really exists!) and I sit there and wonder what it’s liked to be loved that. To love someone and actually have them love you in return for once. To have someone think I’m gorgeous, whether I have makeup on and I’m all dressed up or when I’ve just woken up and my hair is sticking everywhere. To have someone look at me and get butterflies in their stomach. To picture me when they lay in bed about to go to sleep. To have them day-dream about me. To have them smile when my names lights up their phone. I feel that way about guys sometimes but I can’t picture anyone feeling that way about me. Much less finally having someone love me that I love too.
I can’t even picture kissing someone, I daydream about it happening sometimes. A super romantic kiss where we’re both madly in love and they come kiss me like we’re in a romance novel, I can picture it in my head but I don’t feel like it’ll even really happen. I wonder what it feels like to be kissed. To be completely loved like that.
These are the thoughts that go through my head when I’m stuck in bed all day with a headache.
I know I’ve touched on this in the past and I apologize for repeating myself, I really do try to not write about it too much so I don’t get annoying but it’s been weighing heavily on my mind that I just needed to get it out.
I know I’m only 19 and I have a lot of my life left to look for love and such, trust me, I’ve heard it all and I know it to be true. I know I have time. I know God has an amazing plan for me. I know all that, and I trust that God has perfect timing for me, I really do, but sometimes, I just want a guy to have to talk to about anything, to be there no matter what, a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, my soul mate. And yeah, I have that in several guy friends and in a lot of girl friends but I want a boyfriend to do that. To hold me when I need it, to just give me a hug for no reason, to tell me I’m beautiful and so many other reasons. I’m sorry for being sappy again, I’m sure it’s annoying but its what I want with all of my heart. I just want somebody to love. So many of my friends are coupling up that I can’t help but be lonely. It’s not even that I’m jealous of them because I’m not, I’m so happy that they’ve found somebody. I just can’t help but wonder when it’ll be my turn. I want someone to be all cutesy and lovey dovey gross with. I want to have my chance at romance. I’m not asking for my life to be some sappy chick flick. Far from it actually, chick flicks usually annoy me, I just want love.
Right now, I don’t even have anyone that I’m really crushing on. Not anyone tangible I mean, though I’m still holding out hope for Charlie McDonnell (Charlieissocoollike on YouTube). But really, at college I don’t even have any guy friends except two of the guys from my High School and some people from my acting class. And they’re not even people I’ve hung out with really, the two guys from High School give me rides to church sometimes and the people in my acting class were just that, people I hung out with in acting class. I don’t even know if any of them would want to hang out outside of class. And besides, honestly I’m not interested in any of those guys or any of the guys back at home. Which is a pity, I mean, I have some super awesome, amazing, brilliant guy friends here at home. I just don’t see myself with any of them… I just want someone to love… I’m pathetic I know…
Well, I guess that’s all.
P.S. I’m all better now and tonight my little sister is treating me to a concert with The Afters and Sanctus Real, two amazing Christian Rock bands. It’ll be a great time! Just the two of us, I look forward to it.
P.S.S. My room smells like coffee because I made some in here earlier and it’s just wonderful and makes me a bit happy!
“Dance with God, He’ll let the perfect man cut in.” ~ Anonymous
“Make love our aim.” ~ Bob and Mary Taussig
Tonight I went to a Valentine’s Day banquet for Navigators, the college Bible study I attend. I wasn’t expecting much, to be honest, I went a lot for the desert because I really am not fond of Valentine’s Day and I was a bit worried that it was going to be all mushy and make me sad. It was a bit rough at first, I admit to being a bit disappointed that someone was not there but little did I know that today was one of the most enchanting nights of my life.
It started off with us eating dessert, in my case some absolutely outstanding Chocolate Chop Cheesecake and some wonderful tea. Then, this older couple got up to speak, you could tell as soon as they stood up that this was going to be a speech to remember, they were without a doubt the cutest couple I have ever seen, their love for each other was practically radiating off of each other. The first thing out of the man’s mouth (As he held her tightly) was, “I am completely and fully in love with this woman.” Her smile at this statement lit up the room. Even some of the guys in the room teared up at their love for each other. This couple had been married 65 years, have 7 children, 33 grandchildren and 55 great-grandchildren and this was their story. They told the story of how they met in college, in Wheaton, Illinois. He went to that college because he wanted a good Christian education, she confessed that she went to that Christian college because she wanted a good, Christian husband. We all laughed at that and they continued on with their story. Their story in and of itself wasn’t all that memorable but the love they clearly have for one another was, the way they finished each others sentences, lovingly corrected one another, the way she would look over at him and smile and the way he held her the entire hour they spoke. She told us how she met him and immediately wrote her weekly letter to her parents saying, “I met Bob Taussig today. Soon, I will have date with him.” Then the next week she wrote them saying, “I have a date with Bob.” She told us how that continued for a year, her letters saying how she had a date with Bob. At the end of the year, all he said was goodbye because he couldn’t afford to “court her”. Finally, she convinced him to write to her and well, I suppose the rest is history, as I said, their story wasn’t all that memorable but I will never forget this night as long as I live because of their love. Their love was truer, and purer than any story-book romance I’ve ever read. They truly gave me hope. Someday, I will find my Prince Charming. I fill find true love. And it will be more than worth the wait. They talked a bit about how we as Christians are supposed to act with our spouses. Husbands need to honor their wives and treat them with respect and love and wives need to respect their husbands and put them first (After God of course) above all else. They talked about how we need to make love our aim. Mostly, they just talked about love, love for each other and love for God. And it was wonderful. This year for Valentine’s Day when I’m sitting in my dorm trying my best not to be lonely, I will be thinking of them, and holding out for my Prince Charming.
So I know that about a month ago most of my posts were super sappy and depressing and angsty, (no, that’s not how this post is going to be, don’t worry) and all about how I felt like I would never find love. No, I still haven’t found my Prince Charming, that’s not what this post is about either but I have realized something very important, I’m not sure quite when I realized it or what made me realize it but it just struck me the other day, God should always be our first love. No matter what, whether we have a significant other or not, we need to put God first! If we love God and truly have him as our first, true love, then He’ll do the rest. He has a wonderful plan for us. It’s when we put Him first that everything is as it should be, and He can fulfill the rest of His plan for us.
So, as Valentine’s Day is coming up, a day that I will be the first to admit that I really truly hate and it quite depressing for most of us, let’s remember that God loves us all and that He has a wonderful plan for us and He’ll bring us that perfect soul mate in His time. Yes, it might not be when want it exactly but God’s timing is perfect and He knows exactly what He’s doing!
In Junior English, (the HARDEST English class I’ve ever taken in my life) one of our writing assignments was to write a story of our ideal “perfect date”. I was actually pretty happy with how mine turned out and though it’s been two years since I wrote said story, I still feel like it’s one of my best written pieces to date. So, since I have a blog, and blogs are for writing, I decided that maybe I should share it with you.
So, without further ado, here is my ideal perfect date story, “It Ended With I Do”
Well, that’s it. The endings a little choppy but tell me what you think of it! I enjoy any helpful criticism! :)