What is the friend-zone?
Recently the “friend-zone” has come up in my life several times. Hank Green’s latest video was about it and how to escape it and at dinner last week some people on my dorm floor and I had a discussion about it. So what is it? I’m still not completely clear on the matter because there seemed to be several discrepancies on what I thought about it and what the guys on my floor feel. Urban Dictionary describes it this way, “When either a guy or a girl puts a lot of time and energy into wanting to date someone but ends up getting false hope and the common lines like “It’s complicated” or ” I love you so much as a friend and I do not want to lose that bond” Bottom line you’re just a friend. Usually that might make you feel like a gay confident and you will just suffer more while hanging around with the person you love. Often happens to nice guys who finish last. Ex: John, I’m sorry but I just like you as a friend (Welcome to thee friend-zone.)”
This is sort of how I felt it was as well though the guys on my floor all agree that a girl can never be stuck in the friend-zone. I deeply disagree with their sentiments as I seem to be in a constant state of being in the friend-zone, no matter what guy we’re talking about. Wikipedia has this to say on the friend-zone, “The friend zone is when one person in a platonic relationship wishes to enter into a romantic relationship while the other does not. It is generally considered to be a regrettable situation by the lovelorn person.” I feel as though this is in another, very clear description of the friend-zone. Unfortunately, unlike Hank Green I don’t have any advice on getting out of this zone, since I’m always in it and really have no romantic experiences to draw from in giving advice. In the end, I’m not really sure why I’m writing a post about this topic except that since it kept appearing in my life I decided maybe it was time to address it. I my bottom line of what I think it is, is a bit of all three sources. It’s definitely when one person in a friendship likes the other one romantically but the other either doesn’t feel the same or doesn’t want to ruin the friendship. I do agree that there is a slight difference between being a friend that likes the other friend and actually being in the friend-zone but I suppose I don’t really know what the difference is. I do still disagree that girls can’t be in the friend-zone but I suppose overall I’m still confused on the matter. And this post is probably just really rambly and hard to follow so I apologize for that. But, if any of you have any ideas on what the friend-zone is, and/or advice on how to get out of it, that would be fantastic.